La Vita Conscia

La Vita Conscia - A Mindful Life!

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A Mindful (Conscious) Life: Educating and Providing Support to Victims of Emotional Abuse.

Abuse of ANY kind is not a secret. I found that the more I kept the secrets of my abusive relationship to myself, the more pain and anguish of being emotionally tortured remained with me. After writing a very lengthy trauma narrative and telling my story, I realized that my trauma narrative belonged to the source of my pain, my abuser. Bringing such grave physical, financial, emotional and spiritual repercussions into my life, I found that I would never be free of his control, as long as my story remained with me. I would continue to be isolated and hold on to the secrets... the secrets that my abuser coerced me to believe were mine, the secrets that brought his pain and anguish into my life. Moving forward, through the fear, isolation and threats, meant I would no longer keep the secrets that didn't belong to me. I would no longer be the scapegoat for all the pain and ugliness that belonged to my abuser.... I would finally be understood.
May you find peace, knowing you are alone.

Selected Reading on Emotional Abuse

Dr. Susan Forward & Joan Torres; Men Who Hate Women & The Women Who Love Them
Engle, Beverly, M.F.C.C.; The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself. New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1922
Patricia Evans; The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to respond. Holbrook, Massachusetts: Bob Adams, Inc., 1992.
Scott Wetzler, PH.D.; Living With the Passive Aggressive Man
Skerritt, Richard; Meaning from Madness; Understanding the Hidden Patterns that Motivate Abusers: Narcissists, Borderlines, and Sociopaths

Selected Reading for Healing

Don Miguel Ruiz; The Four Agreements
Don Miguel Ruiz; The Mastery of Love
Eckhart Tolle; A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose
Jennifer Louden; The Woman's Comfort Book
Judith Herman, MD; Trauma and Recovery
Linda Martinez-lewi; Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Louise L. Hay; Gratitude: A Way of Life
Louise L. Hay; You Can Heal Your Life
Robert Brumet; Finding Yourself in Transition: Using Life's Changes for Spiritual Awakening
Shakti Gawain; The Path of Transformation: How Healing Ourselves Can Change the World
Thich Nhat Hanh; Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life

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