There are two worlds that people choose to live in.

The first is love and acceptance. The other is denial.

When you love and accept you are willing to live in the present, with what is. You can see clearly, and see things as they really are and are open and accepting to what is.

Living in denial is the opposite. Everything you do is an attempt to escape your life. It’s an unwillingness to listen to the messages you are receiving in your life, a way to escape from living in the present, from living in truth. Denial takes form is many ways. Drinking, drugs, promiscuity, and enmeshed relationships are some examples. Taken too far, denial can be dangerous, even deadly.

On the other hand, denial is not always a bad thing. Denial also says, “I am too fragile to face what I need to hear, what I need to see, what I need to feel, the lesson to be learned, and the truth I must know.” Denial shelters you when you are not ready, because the fear is bigger than you. The fear of the truth hurting is bigger than you.

In order to move out of denial, to live in truth, you must understand and learn about love and acceptance. Love and acceptance means that you are willing to live with life as it is in the present and acknowledge what is. Loving and accepting also means that there is goodness and not so good. So, examine whether you are too fragile to be open to the less favorable moments of the present and not just the good, for love encompasses all, the good and bad. Don’t be afraid that you will be unable to find love and acceptance. A true heart has compassion.

To move forward, one may want have the willingness to be open and ready to see things as they really are, regardless of whether it is good or not so good, because it is the reality of what is, the truth. It also means that whether it is good or not so good, you have chosen to live in the present, in love and acceptance.

You've seen the madness...

There is NO madness in Love. There is only LOVE in LOVE. If you've seen madness, then he has revealed his true self to you.

When you see a snake, never mind where he came from.

W.G. Benham
When you see a snake, never mind where he came from.

Stop pretending. There is NO "bolt out of the blue." Once again, it is YOU trying to make sense of his abnormal behavior and narcissistic personality. There is no rational reason, no "fate" that you can pull out of the sky or out of your ASS that is going to make it OK to normalize what is very sick and inappropriate.

You've become a little Gretel, leaving behind a trail of crumbs that have been trying to alert you that something is not right. It is not OK to accept the chaos and drama, the "madness" in love. He does not deserve your kindness, your compassion, your tenderness. He is not worthy of your gifts, yet because you don't believe in your own worthiness, you would give yourself away. And worse, you gave yourself to an abuser. This is hard to acknowledge, but even a prostitute gets paid more than what you have given away yourself to.

He will NEVER have wholeness, wellness. The more you rationalize that the "bolt out of the blue" or the "madness in love" is what your fate is, the farther you will continue to move from reality and into his abyss and control. You can be spiritual, have faith, forgiveness or whatever belief in GOD before you; however, "GOD and REALITY" are two different things. He does not live in reality and attempts to normalize his delusion. There is NO normal rational excuses that justify putting yourself beneath a prostitute to give yourself away. The harder you try, the more you will whittle away at the beautiful person you were meant to be in this world and the more you will continue to allow another human being to exploit the wonderful gifts you were meant to share with others.

It is then, when you are on your knees and have found that all your attempts to understand him have gone awry, you will turn to GOD and ask for mercy. Even with your fierce loyalty, compassion, empathy, and love, the pain will be nothing like you've ever felt before. YOUR GOD will lead you to FORGIVE YOURSELF, as you will come to learn how you abandoned yourself in all your attempts to rationalize what was not faith, nor madness in love. This is how a prostitute can do the work they do as well, because if you abandon yourself (disassociate from reality) you will find a way to rationalize the situation.

Don't abandon yourself. When you see a snake, never mind where he came from.